Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Smoke Signal.


Chances...

Anger, fights, arguments, complaints are all signals someone is sending you to let you know that things are terribly wrong and need your attention and intervention to improve. They may also be treated as a chance someone gives you to improve situations, be it relationships, difficult work situations, anything.

All you need to do is listen, take the chance and make the most of it. The focus should not be on the anger or the nagging, but the message behind it, the reason. Because, it is when the person has stopped complaining, stopped expressing hurt that the relationship has lost its meaning. They have given up any expectations of you.  You have lost your chance. To save a marriage. To retain an employee. Lost the chance cos you didn't listen right.

Saturday, June 11, 2011

Rudeness Personified

This is the latest occurring in the series of 'lovely relatives' rant posts that I mean to keep posting here.

Last day the most darling among my relatives, someone that the whole family loves to hate, gives me a call on my mobile. I definitely do a double take when I see the caller id announce the name (as we are not in talking terms these days cos of....well only this person knows why.) Anyways, I answer the phone and get a curt "aa entha" (roughly pronounced as "what?") for a greeting. I am obviously surprised and hence manage a polite "entha uncle" with a smile in my voice and all that  (fortunately, though the same bloodline and all, my parents have taught me basic manners). To which he replies "Why did you call?". Now, since I obviously didn't do anything as stupid as that, I told him I did not call, to which the reply was....none. He just cut the line. Just like that.

Well I did check my phone and didn't have any outgoing to his number. But whether there was any or not, the rudeness really is beyond my understanding.

Repeat lesson - Age has got nothing to do with maturity. Grow Up Dude, while you still have some time left!

Friday, June 10, 2011

The new Theory of Relativity

"With all the expected exceptions considered, the further you live from your relatives and the lesser you interact with them the better the relationship progresses and the longer it can be maintained."
I know this sounds rather mean but this tenure in Trivandrum, where I had to be dependent on/ live in close circles with some relatives gave me an 'oppurtunity' to interact with and hence come to the aforementioned conclusion.
Though not very pleasant, a series of various incidents related (there is that word again) to various individuals sparked a lot of new entries in my journal. (Yes, I am weird that way. I do maintain a journal , or as some of you may point and laugh and state "I write a 'diary'").

Anyways, Some of these thoughts, after being filtered off the explicits and other such, shall now be subjects for a new series of 'relativity' blog posts. And, if one day I become a famous blogger and the subjects of the incidents happen to read and recognise their roles, well I am truly unapologetic about my future writing successes. *evil grin* as that is the least I can do to return the favors. Buhahahhaha...

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Proud, Yes. But Responsible?

I usually defer from writing about the current HOT topics; Too many debates, too many arguments and discussions makes the subject too stale too fast. And any tuppence one adds to it, its already been heard before. However, this post has absolutely nothing to do with the games as much as the strange Indian attitude of extremities, very much propagated and influenced by the media and this time got so bad that one had to dwell on it.

So here we were, one day jumping up and down, booing the government, booing the CWG committee and booing the country as such because International media made a huge ruckus about the "facilities and infrastructure", the lack of it, at the CWG village and they were promptly and happily seconded by the Indian media. A lot of brouhaha took place - an Australian media person saying he entered the facility with a suitcase of explosive device and not being stopped, some athletes pulling out here and there, a snake, a fever and all this was blown out of proportions by our ever prompt media!

The very next day the opening ceremony took place and suddenly everyone was happy! My twitter TL was overflowing with emotional tweets - pride, tears, exhilaration and what not! Added to this the Indian medals tally and the touching closing ceremony made all of us Proud Indian.

So where was our National Pride when some outsiders were hell bent on making us look bad?
Why were we so ready to join forces with them and display to the world spit stains, a couple of removed false ceiling tiles and so forth instead of defending our country by showing the so much more beautiful bigger picture that we finally did get to see during the games?

No, let me make myself clear. I am not saying that there were no issues, the foot bridge collapsing, the corruption are as real as they could get. (And once again, the army to the rescue, now thats where we must all learn National Pride from ). But, corruption is a disease that is there in each walk of our life; and people, believe it or not it exists in every country. Just that they don't go around shouting at the to of their voices that their country is corrupt like we are so ready to do. When there is a 'black sheep' in our family, we all go around trying to protect that fact from public while trying to tackle the issue privately at home. So why don't we have a similar feel for our country?

Once the grandeur of the opening ceremony had the media and in fact the whole population who had believed the media's gory reports, thoroughly surprised, they suddenly backtracked saying 'we never questioned the facilities. The corruption is a serious issue and that has to be tackled'. Well, for one, if corruption were really the issue, why wait for a CWG to raise it? We have to fight it, we have to solve it, but the question is, was CWG the right arena? Did we have to wash our dirty laundry internationally?


Our country has enough and more departments and avenues where corruption occurs and the normal man is robbed in broad daylight. Why doesn't the media do something about it? (in lines of tehelka eh?)  But I guess the TRP attained over crying foul for CWG is way more appealing. Wouldn't we all have looked better if the media had gone onto to display the facilities and infrastructure of the village, the greenery, the roads, interviewed so many Indian sorts person who repeatedly and vehemently mentioned how good CW village was compared to many international arenas and overall spread a good will and then covered the corrution that is anyways being covered now. No, they chose to ignore all this for the TRPs.


More important question is why are the rest of us such putty in the hands of the media? There were such angst and hate over twitter and other such arenas over the media report. Why? didn't we all at some level or other know that the organisers would have definitely made crores and crores. We are by now so tempered about all that, what with politicians stealing money out of fodder and food & clothing for soldiers at the border. So if the media had shown the great infrastructure and talked about corruption on the sidelines we would have just nodded our heads and said, of course! Instead, the "lack of clean living quarters" was the agenda initially to gather enough eyeballs.


In all this TRP race and hate mails and tweets we never once bothered to stop and think what this was doing to the image of our nation. Countries with the "India Itch" happily rode the medias back to show how "useless" Indians were and we as citizens took the side of the media and the International community leaving the organisers scrambling on the other end with  not so much as "Oh, we shall do it".

The way I see things now, we had a mind blowing CWG. With the help of the army and the Delhi CM stepping in and acting (instead of cribbing), everything went on smooth on time. International media was silent. And now that all is over the necessary actions are being taken against the necessary. Only if the media had followed the same path of positivity and support in the beginning and questions and concerns (Negativity and Dramatics on TeleVision) after the games, they wouldn't have had to eat a humble pie.

The last weeks edition of The Week carried an article be some great mind India has become a joke in the international arena thanks to the CWG. Well, I am not sure when he might have sent that article to be printed, but by now I guess we all have realised that the joke is on the likes of him.

JAI HIND!!!

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Civic Sense, if Not Common Sense

All over the place, everyone is comparing and complaining about the differences between India and other countries. But, let us forget about economy and population and all those statistical figures for a moment. One of the biggest difference I feel is in the attitudes of people and one particular aspect - civic sense!











The trigger to this sudden line of thought was some brain damaging construction activity that went on in one of the neighbouring houses. Suddenly, yesterday some grinding/drilling/polishing or some such activities began somewhere in the neighbourhood. Now, that this needs to be done by whom so ever can be understood, that this was going to be continued through the night took us all unawares. The non stop droning of the drilling (or whatever) machine had gotten everyone to "bang head against walls" condition in the first half hour itself. By noon everyone was hoping there might be a break for lunch at least but no. Then we started looking forward to the 5pm deadline beyond which workers in kerala stop working with a religious fervor. But no such luck, they broke that record as well (might have been north Indian workers). Finally the work halted by around 8pm and silence has never sounded so musical before. We didn't even switch on the television in order to just enjoy the sound of silence but unfortunately (and extremely surprisingly for kerala) the workers were back in half an hour!

My point is not that in another country drilling wouldn't happen. It would. But, I am sure they would be obliged to inform their immediate neighbours at least of the oncoming sound pollution. Whats more important is that I am sure other countries would definitely have and abide by a decent cut off for such noisy work. Well, not here. No one cares and everyone suffers in "silence".

It's the same about honking, stopping your cars right at the turns and lets not even get into the spitting/cleanliness bit. With people getting such high education, more money and a much higher standard of living as such, I wish the same would reflect in the way they treat their country, at least their immediate neighbours and surroundings!
Anyways, since this is a huge ongoing debate in our country and the discussion shall go on for ever, I am stopping right here as my purpose was to take it out of my system and that has been achieved.  

Saturday, September 25, 2010

The Much Awaited Moment

I recently saw and immediately fell in love with the new "Your Moment is Waiting" Add for Kerala Tourism. Parallely, I read lots of criticism against this add most of which expressed concern about how the add did not depict the essence of kerala, especially in terms of enough greenery, backwaters and beaches.

However, what I felt was that the add depicted all these elements and more in a very surreal, dream like, mystery filled and interesting manner


This is the day of the intelligent and aware traveller. Anyone planning a trip these days wouldn't just pick up a picture book, see pretty pictures and select randomly. People consult travel agents, do thorough studies on the Internet and basically know exactly what there is to be seen and explored, while visiting a new destination. Also, today's travellers are more often than not young, stressed out executives looking for some fun, relaxation, family time and most importantly needing soul searching and trying to find themselves. Assuming KT had this target population in mind while shooting this add, I believe the travels and experiences of the young female protagonist depicted here, hits these right spots.

It intrigues, piques ones curiosity and leaves the viewer with a sense of awe and mystery.
What I liked most about this add is what I think also got the most criticism - the absence of the obvious and apparent. Instead of an "on your face" picture-book depiction of a kathakali face, an elephant ride, a house boat ride in the backwaters, a beach with lots of coconut palms and so forth, the video has laid more focus on the fresh and the different. These same aspects have also been dealt with a much more subtle and mystic hand making it all feel like an untouched, unexplored paradise waiting to be explored by You, the viewer. Instead of making kerala look like the picture book and us, the viewer looking at it from outside, the video has stressed on actually getting in and experiencing "Your Moment".
In its own subtle manner, the add actually does depict kathakali - though as being performed by an unadorned artist in a typical kerala house discovered by the protagonist while exploring narrow, unobtrusive country lanes;
It gives a feel of the ayurveda in the starting shots with a beautiful beach on the background, transporting one literally to paradise;
It takes one through the scenic, serene backwaters - not on a house boat but shown as the protagonist rowing a narrow boat on a journey to find oneself and discovering;
It touches on other art forms like the thaiyyams in a manner that makes one want to know and share the secrets too;
And finally it depicts the strength, serenity and calmness of the elephant in its final shots.

I request all those that didn't see these elements, to take a look again with an open mind and a different eye...I am sure you shall be as touched by the magic in it as I was...

That was a longish way to say "I loved it" and it makes me proud. Kudos to Kerala Tourism and the add developers for the imagination and guts to come up with something so different and fresh.

Saturday, September 4, 2010

Dreams and Meanings

So here we are, S and I, living in this small little small-town, while P is off studying in an institution where they "don't believe in holidays". On the one hand I desperately want to go and live in Pune so our little family is complete while on the other hand that shall mean having to leave little Sid alone with a stranger while I go to work.
I am also worried if and when I go back to work, will I land myself back at something worthwhile after such a long break.
A few days back I also had a heart warming conversation with an estranged very dear friend that took me back to the the immense hurt these lies, blames and questioning of my loyalty had caused me. 

And, while I struggle with these emotions and inner conflicts, I have a terrifying nightmare that our black dog (a very loving and friendly Lab) bit me rather viciously on my leg, barking, growling and snarling all the time! And then we had to give him away...


Disconnect? Of course there is. Except, since I have all the time in the world, I decided to google 'dream black dog' and google threw at me the following interpretations ...

To see a dog in your dream, symbolizes intuition, loyalty, generosity, protection, and fidelity. The dream suggests that your strong values and good intentions will enable you to go forward in the world and bring you success. The dream dog may also represent someone in your life who exhibits these qualities. Alternatively, to see a dog in your dream, indicates a skill that you may have ignored or forgotten. (This part is just the introduction, read ahead)

  • If the dog is vicious and/or growling, then it indicates some inner conflict within yourself. It may also indicate betrayal and untrustworthiness.

  • If the dog is dead or dying, then it means a loss of a good friend or a deterioration of  a relationship.

  • To dream that a dog bites you on the leg, suggests that you have to balance certain aspects of your life. You may be hesitant in approaching a new situation or have no desire to move forward with your goals.

  • Alternatively, it symbolizes disloyalty.

  • If the dog is barking ferociously, then it represents your habit of making demands on people and controlling situations around you. Are you "barking" too many orders? Alternatively, it could also indicate unfriendly companions.

  • To dream that you give or send your dog away, indicates that the decisions and choices you are making now may be misinterpreted as disloyalty. You have to do what is right for you and not worry about what others think of the decision. Alternatively, it signifies rejection of friendship.

  • To see a black colored dog in your dream, symbolizes the shadow aspect of a friend. The dark side of someone close to you is being revealed and you are able to see through to their true intentions.
Also consider the notions associated with the word dog, such as loyalty ("man's best friend") and to be "treated like a dog".

Considering the facts mentioned in the beginning and that I am not very pleased with my situation, have been feeling let down and ordered around by certain someone recently, I have now become a new fan of dream interpretations and am sure to go on doing some more research on it.